Can someone help me understand thi?

ok so we were friends. he was younger to me, i was married, he used to listen to me and was sensitive to my problems. my husband didnt like it though i used to explain to my husband that we are friends and later on he was fine. one day he said he is getting married and he wont be talking to me and i cried..he weaned away from me and finally he deleted me(he said he went away bec there were problems)and he had joked abt wtih me so i called him a player and he said u used me as emotional dumpyard. and we had terrible fight with abuses etc. we stopped talking for one year. he returned after an year and apologized. but he returned only when he knew that i was very angry and he got scared that i might screw him. he came explaining hsi scenario. he never wanted to be my friend but he said he cared. and care should be built step by step. right now i m trying to remove the bitterness.